Realised

 I just realised something right now while I was showering. In 2001 I was doing the Prince's Trust and my teacher asked us a dilemma

‘You have two seats on a boat and three people (including yourself obviously)…who would you give the seats to,’

My answer was the other two people. I don’t remember any details about the other two. If it was two people you know, but it wouldn’t have made a difference.

My teacher’s reaction to that was

‘Why,’

Up until this moment right now I thought he was saying

‘Why…why would you do that,’

Judgmentally and questioning

But I think he was saying

‘Why…what is your reason,’

I want to understand from your point of view.

My reaction to his question was a shrug of the shoulder

I didn’t remember what my teacher said after ‘why’ I assumed it was the first because I always put myself in someone else shoes. Not just to see and understand where you’re coming from but also I am that person. I had a lot of questions in my head back then, that began with the why. I was to focused on the judgement I didn’t want people to think I was judging them because that’s what I would think if the tables were turned.